To say I typically consume a bit of caffeine might be a bit of an understatement. My typical morning lately involves a 32oz French press full of some seriously strong coffee. That’s usually gone before 10AM. After that, there’s easily another cup or sometimes two… or three before I hit the hay. It hasn’t helped that Starbucks recently was doing their “Starbucks for life” game.
I did some crude math last night and figured based on the strength of my coffee and how it tastes compared to Starbucks… Well let’s just say I’m averaging about 1000mg of caffeine PER. DAY. 😮 Then, there was this fun morning the other day where I redeemed some points for a free beverage:
If you read closely, on the caffeine front that’s a trenta cold brew with four shots of espresso added. That’s 330 + 300mg of caffeine! That was polished off before 12pm.
Houston, we have a problem.
So, my journey begins to detox and get this under control. Yesterday I had about a little more than a tall blonde pour over and three cups of green tea. My estimate, that brought me down to somewhere below 500mg. At time of writing, I just finished brewing cup two of green tea.
I’ll keep you posted on how this continues. Wish me luck!
If you were following along, this is the third installment of a 5 part series were I’m doing a breakdown of empathy. To get caught up check out:
Part 1 – Empathy Defined
Part 2 – What it feels like for you
And now, in this part of the series, we will venture into what it feels like for them.
Have you ever chatted with someone who was sharing with you their frustration, anger, or sadness about something? Were they talking for a while and you suddenly noticed you didn’t hear the last five minutes of what they said? Eventually, if it hasn’t happened already, what will happen is they will disengage. When they are sharing emotions with you they are seeking connection.
This leaves you with a choice:
tune out and they’ll find someone else to connect with, or you can tune in and connect.
Let’s assume you’re going with option b – tune in. Be ready: they will likely open up more. This is good. Sharing emotions is healthy and helps us process what we are feeling. You may think the other person is being irrational. And guess what, you’re sometimes right. Now isn’t the time to point that out. There are two modes the brain works in: our emotional and logical modes.
Emotion always trumps logic. Always.
You cannot speak logic when a person is trying to work through their emotions. Your best bet if you’re working together to try and resolve a conflict is to empathize, hear the person, and connect first. Meet their emotional needs, then work on solving issues at a logical level… If you need to.
That’s it for now. Stay tuned for part four: How To Show Empathy
Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right.
– Henry Ford
There’s a lot of power in what your brain believes. Combine that with the “other” law of averages: you’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with… Be careful, because your words inside your head combined with what the folks around you say will start to shape your thoughts and eventually your actions.
Developing decision making…
I’m whatever you do, wherever you go, think about the role model you’re setting and the impact you’re having. Whether it’s on kids or adults, it doesn’t matter: if you’re interacting with humans, you’re leaving an impression, an impact on them. You have a choice in what that impression is.
“Don’t let yesterday take up too much of today.” -Will Rogers